I don't get this. Just because I am against mothers and their children being unnecessarily separated doesn't mean I am advocating to keep children with violent parents - regardless if they are biological or not.
Over the past few years I have often been accused of trying to keep children with their violent mothers/fathers/parents which is completely ridiculous. That goes against what I believe in as well. But where does it state that to be against adoption completely means you are okay with children being abused? Its just not logical and these people who think that is what I'm about are really cracked in the head - or lacking some vital intelligence.
In saying I am completely, 110% against adoption definitely means I want it eradicated. Abolished. Gone forever where it can no longer cause any more harm. However, this doesn't mean that if adoption suddenly didn't exist, there couldn't be something in its place to care for children who really need it. Permanent Care is one idea I am very fond of.
A system where children are in care only where necessary, they get to keep their original birth certificate, no names are changed unless it is for the child's safety to do so and the children and natural family are able to have a varying amount of contact; dependent on the needs of and in the best interests and welfare of the child. Adoption does not allow any of this. Adoption is not even about children today; rather it is about having what one wants and cannot have naturally, money, meeting demands etc. No one thinks about the mothers of these children nor the children themselves.
So, if you are spitting mad with steam pouring from your ears because you have read somewhere I am anti adoption (and that somehow offends you), you now have no excuse to accuse me of being pro child abuse because that is just plain stupid, totally illogical and completely irrational. I could say you are pro child abuse for being pro adoption but I won't. Rather I will say you are ignorant of the damage adoption has caused and are blinded either by your own needs/desires or those of a friend/family member and I would ask you to see past that and learn something. If you choose to stay closed minded to the ugliness that is adoption, then don't bother reading what I write here or anywhere else. Its that simple. Oh, and enough with the emails asking me ‘advice’ if you have decided to block a reply. Really, grow up already!